Monday, August 6, 2012

The Forgotten Demographic

Call one of the biggest questions facing our country an equal rights movement, an attack on freedom of religion, or what have you, but all too often we often forget the one demographic most affected by the question of same-sex marriage: children.
Between 1973 and 1990, when my beloved mother passed away, she and her female romantic partner raised me. They had separate houses but spent nearly all their weekends together, with me, in a trailer tucked discreetly in an RV park 50 minutes away from the town where we lived. As the youngest of my mother’s biological children, I was the only child who experienced childhood without my father being around.
After my mother’s partner’s children had left for college, she moved into our house in town. I lived with both of them for the brief time before my mother died at the age of 53. I was 19. In other words, I was the only child who experienced life under “gay parenting” as that term is understood today.
Quite simply, growing up with gay parents was very difficult, and not because of prejudice from neighbors. People in our community didn’t really know what was going on in the house. To most outside observers, I was a well-raised, high-achieving child, finishing high school with straight A’s.
Inside, however, I was confused. When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird. I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.
Via Growing Up With Two Moms: The Untold Children’s View

The essay has some problems that will keep it from becoming a big Internet sensation, but his reflection on his life are at least worth some pondering and wondering what other voices we are not hearing and are grossly affected by the outcome of how our nation answers this question.